Or rather, still indebted. But the debt is from my employer to me!
My contract supposedly began on June or July 2010... Due to IRS registration issues, i couldnt sign my contract until December 2010.
IRS registration issues were:
This happened from August through November... The SHCP (mexican IRS) has a really stupid "by appointment only" system, which is stupid even in the "make an appointment" section. Every month they open a certain number of slots per office, and then, once full, you're f*cked (if you didnt get one, of course).
When i finally got an appointment and registered for the SHCP...
I happily went to my employer to turn in all the papers needed for my contract (including the damned IRS registration slip) and sign my contract.
...I shouldnt've been happy.
And so, I started going to the Payroll queue since January, hoping they'd pay me some payday.
February
Mind you, my contract STARTED on JULY 2010, and by february, my employer owed me:
July, Aug, Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec 2010, AND Jan, Feb 2011... (8 months' salaries)
So March comes around. And march payday comes around (today)...
Well, "apparently" there's a mistake with my first paycheck. So, since nobody in the area which hired me seems to have an exact idea of what happened, i need to go queue at some OTHER bureaucracy building to see WTF happened to my other EIGHT months' salary.
DAMNIT!
When you're out having a meal with a couple people you know, but you are NOT friends with (i.e. you're a "friend of a friend"), there are several conversation topics you should steer clear of.
Keep in mind you're merely and acquaintance, and NOT a friend to these people. PERSONAL topics are just that, personal, and people don't want you nosing into them.
Asking how long someone's been with their S/O is okay, even among GLBT folk.
Asking how someone met his/her S/O is also okay, even among GLBT folk.
What is NOT OKAY is:
Asking whether someone's S/O was already homosexual when he/she met that someone is definitely NOT OKAY. Not among GLBT folk, not among straight peers, its just something you dont ask acquaintances! NOT EVEN if you are a recently "outed" gay person. You want to know that kind of stuff, either ask your real friends or go to support groups!
When the person you're harassing with questions replies "my S/O doesn't identify as gay because I am transgender", blinking a few times and then saying "OH! I GET IT!"will just annoy the person further. You should take a hint and DROP the conversation there.
Any questions that are equally invasive or even MORE invasive to someone's privacy are TOTALLY WRONG to be asked. But you want to make things worse, so you ask:
WTF? Seriously, if you've talked to this person no more than 4 times before, asking whether they want to have sexual reassignment surgery is NOT going to make you friends with the person. It will clearly upset them, since it's really invasive to ask about someone's genitals, even if you were a friend to them!
From that point on, the person you're talking to will be clearly uncomfortable, will reply in short sentences using the minimum sounds possible, and will try to change the topic often. The other person sitting at the table will avoid looking at either you or other person, and will ask to himself how the conversation went so badly, so quickly. He'll also be uncomfortable, but you will certainly not take a hint.
Seriously, would you like people asking whether you've got early menopause and will be injecting female hormones? Or asking whether you use tampons or pads during your period? And how many of them? Or if you're a guy, would you want people asking similar private things? NO, right? So don't ask others such private things!
Trying to delve further into conversation bringing "i saw on TV" talk will only make everyone else at the table want to choke on the food they're eating. You will probably give lots of information straight people DO NOT want to hear. And, think of it, if you're talking to a trans person, do you really think you need to tell them about hormones and their effects? If they've already gone as far as to label themselves "trans" they've probably done much more research than "watched a show on tv" about it.
TAKE A HINT. People with NERVOUS TICs are NOT ENJOYING your conversation. People who have stopped replying to your comments are NOT ENJOYING the conversation nor want anything to do with it! STOP TALKING ABOUT IT!
And most of all, STOP PROJECTING YOURSELF!!!
And yes, although this all seems surreal... It happened to me yesterday. *die*
